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When folk push your boundaries….and you decide to push back

A curious one this one when folk push your boundaries. Now normally I wouldn’t but this last week I’ve pushed back.

And pushed back fairly significantly if I’m brutally honest.


Yes, really. Everyone has a tipping point and I reached mine.
Now that will sound a lot more dramatic than it actually was.

To set the scene…….

As you know I go into observation mode quite a lot of the time – as it’s what I do. To see the bigger picture and get a sense of what I’m picking up on and why.

Most of the time this is enough . I take the time to sit with it and let whatever is coming up do so – then work out where it’s stemming from and go from there. Doing the work and integration etc etc etc

But sometimes,  just sometimes, I do things a little differently.

“How so?”

As you know over time I have developed very specific boundaries professionally and personally in keeping with what I do and what energies work through me. I’ve had to and most of the time this is respected.

But over the last week or so I’ve noticed and was made aware of people nudging at these – particularly the professional ones.

And this time round I’ll confess I pushed back.


I know, I know.

I’m not all sweetness and light so this shouldn’t come as a complete shock to folks – but it may have taken the ground out from under a few pairs of feet that I actually called folk on it.

And was seen to do it.

And no this is not aimed at anyone as I have a life outside of social media…..hard to believe but it’s true.

“You’re just kidding us on……..”

No, I really did call folk on their actions (and yes I have a life beyond FB). Not aggressively or in your face but it was done.

It’s not just myself who’s here to remember about boundaries, energy and playing fair.

We ALL are.

Sometimes I get called on things and that’s fine with me as I don’t always see it when I’m in the thick of it.

Sometimes I’m blinkered to my own actions and I need a wee shake or boot up the arse to GET IT.

So if I need reminding every now and again you can bet others do to.

So occasionally I get the green light from the team to let rip.

For anyone ever caught in the cross fire my apologies. But likely as not there’s a reason for that too.


“Ouch! That must smart!” photo for push back blog

Not all the time 🙂 it can be done gently and without ripping off the plaster, and I do have the skills to do it that way. Thank goodness!

So be aware of your boundaries and if folk overstep one time too many….push back.

You might be very interested to see what happens………