Social media. It’s an odd animal isn’t it.
On one hand it’s a phenomenal tool for connecting with like minded people, seeking out new pathways and expanding your life. On others it’s a pain in the backside with people using it to spout from their own little soap box.
It all depends on your perception of what it is.
For me I view it as a tool. And a highly useful one at that.
With that mindset and intent I have a pretty upbeat social media newsfeed and only see what is relevant for me.
It can be done.
Masks slipping here there and everywhere
However what I’ve observed for quite some time now, and in particular the past 24 hours or so is rather startling.
People standing in what they believe/feel to be their own power and using social media as a way of using their voice. All power to you. I do it myself so cannot possibly say anything else.
But they are missing or are oblivious to the language and tone they are using that’s showing the mask they’ve been wearing.
And it’s slipping.
And slipping FAST.
Now I’m coming only from a standpoint of observation right now as I’m too damn tired to be doing anything else. Until my own energy stabilises from all the shifts I’ve had since 31st October all I CAN do is observe.
But I’m seeing things very clearly.
And I’m paying attention as to where they are coming from.
“So what exactly are you seeing?”
To put into context I have had, so far today, three “seriously? Judgemental much? Wow, just wow.” moments.
What’s come across loud and clear is views/opinions being expressed but coming across as judgement.
From people who claim to be “better” than that. Their words, not mine.
It’s very firmly in the language used. And the message has a hint of a slap about it. It may be there to deliberately incite a reaction. I may be completely off- base , as I often am. As hey, I’ll admit I’m human and make mistakes.
I make no claims to be free of ego, to be completely non-judgemental. I do my best.
But I will admit when I’m wrong.
For the people who say they are free of ego and judgement. They may well be and if they are I salute them. But when faced with something written or said which flies in the face of that I have to question the energy underneath.
Because I can feel AND see it, clear as day.
Live your life your way
You are under NO obligation to justify any of the following to others:
- Your feelings.
- What you do.
- The systems you use to process shifts and transitions.
- Your way of giving back – as we ALL do it in some way.
- What you charge for the work you do.
- Falling into your shadow and doing your shadow work.
It’s no-one else’s business but yours.
As in turn it’s none of your business how someone else feels, works, copes etc.
See what’s underneath
So when someone who is a way-shower, guide, teacher – whatever word resonates for you. Starts to make you feel as if you are being judged in some way just by what is being written or shared. Question it. Look at the language being used , look beneath the surface and see what pops up.
Sometimes its insecurity, sometimes it can be a sense of self importance, or possibly its a fear of losing people or control. They may be processing and not realise it, or they have shadow work coming up that requires some work.
Whatever it is IT’S NOT YOURS TO TAKE ON.
It’s simply their perception.
If you have asked for insight that’s different.
But unsolicited advice or unsolicited opinion? Let it wash over you or send it right back.
Time to take stock.
If you are seeing patterns or a trend on social media it’s time to pay attention.
For me today it’s a confirmation of perhaps it being time to part ways with specific pages/energies/people. As we seem to be out of alignment with each other, or we’re an octave off each others frequency. Something doesn’t quite “fit” anymore.
And that’s ok.
People change, energies shift, directions change path.
It’s all part of what we are here to do.
Sense check yourself.
If you look at the language you are using on social media and think “uh oh, Ive read that from a different view point and its sounds a bit judgemental” don’t panic. You are still human. Judgement is so deeply ingrained from a very young age it’s hard to break away from. Being aware of when you are falling into it isn’t a bad thing. It’s a just a thing.
If it feels uncomfortable do what you need to take it away. To resolve what has come up.
Learn and move on.
But own your own crap.
Better yet if it pops up , scroll past and live your own life. Observe it absolutely but try not to take it personally. As trust me , it’s not about you.
Musings from a tired energy worker