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Spiritual awareness is not a f**king competition

It really, really isn’t. But it seems to be for some folk. Pop your hand up if you’ve been in groups on social media where people start to get argumentative, aggressive, downright rude and falling into a form of spiritual bullying along the lines of “I’m more spiritually aware than you”……A one-upmanship competition to be on top and worshiped or seen as an expert ……. Spiritual awareness it’s not a f**king competition folks.

I can see all sorts of hands popping up , mine included.

Now this is not an easy one to write as there are all sorts of layers and levels to this and how it manifests. I’ve left plenty of groups on FB for this very thing….I don’t comment I just observe for a while and when it really gets too much I leave. No drama no fuss.

This can’t be said of everyone. And in truth my tolerance for this is wearing thin.

Ok, so where are you coming from on this one?

Quite simply I’m against bullying of ANY form especially any I’ve experience myself.

It’s all very exciting when we start out and become aware of spiritual and energetic stuff going on. That first opening of the door can cause quite a rush and an overwhelming urge to know more, more, more and as quickly as possible. That enthusiasm is perfectly normal and quite fun to witness as it takes people back to childhood.

What’s not so nice is when these same people after a period of time start to question in a slightly more aggressive manner and it feels they are actually spoiling for a fight. They disagree with everything but rather than allow others to have their own views and opinions they keep trying to get their viewpoint across above all others.

This my dears is a form of bullying – healthy debate is all well and good but it’s easy to fall over this and it becomes personal, rude and completely beyond the pale.

This is where I have a line drawn in the sand and I will and do call folk on it.

Why bother?

Because I’ve had it done to me.

I’ve had the “I’m more spiritually advanced because of a, b and c” thrown at me. Which utterly undermined my confidence, my ability to trust my own experiences and to fall into a trap of almost putting someone on a pedestal as they must know more and better than me. After all who am I to question…..

THIS IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BOLLOCKS – no one who is aware would ever talk down to someone starting out, tell them they aren’t advanced and superimpose their views and beliefs on others.

We all have our own path to tread and no one can navigate it but us. What we experience, feel and learn is unique to ourselves. What works for someone will not work for everyone and who are we to question anyone else when we are working on ourselves at the same time. We know the headf**kery that are shifts and integrations – they are hard enough to navigate at the best of times.

Try and not fall into the language trap of “advanced” or “masters” or any other word that suggests a tier system. We are all on different pages of the same book – some read it in a linear fashion, some jump to different chapters, some even go to the end to read that first . There’s no right or wrong in this simply what’s right for YOU.

Don’t let/give permission to anyone belittle or talk down your experiences or feelings ESPECIALLY if it’s something they haven’t experienced direct for themselves. This is the bit that I’ll confess winds me up.

Just because you don’t agree with something someone says or does doesn’t make it wrong – it just makes it different.

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But you don’t allow posting about/from certain people in your groups, isn’t that a contradiction?

No it isn’t.

These are energies that do not resonate with me in any form and I’ve found over time when they are mentioned they cause fights in my spaces. This is based on my own experience – no-one elses.  I’ve gone against my own gut instinct before leaving posts up and things have blown up very quickly. I realise now they had to be seen as masks were falling and it was a form of confirmation of this.

To keep my own spaces in good health, balanced and a safe place to be able to have a HEALTHY debate I do police it. It’s a thing called Boundaries – and you know how I bang on about that all the time.

It’s a personal and professional boundary and by stating it it becomes respected …which goes two ways I might add.

Huh?

I respect that people have different experiences, resonate with different people and energies – and if that includes people I don’t resonate with that’s fine. It’s none of my business who people have high regard for , follow , read or promote.

Each to their own and all that.

What I won’t do is judge folk based on their beliefs or experiences, who the hell am I to dictate about anything. I’m still learning and always will be learning.

I have my connection to my team and specific energies which aren’t for everyone.

I may even connect with aspects of these energies that others feel uncomfortable with , don’t trust, don’t like etc etc.

There’s nothing wrong with that – I’m here to do what I’ve been asked to do and I’m getting on with it.

If folks disagree with me along the way so be it.

Do your own thing

If you’re doing your own work and things are coming forwards and the groups you’re in just aren’t striking the right balance for you anymore here’s a top tip:

Start your own

Get your own voice out there.
Gather your own tribe
Look after them
Protect your space

And maybe then you’ll have an understanding of what I’m talking about and why I’m strict about certain things.

It’s called learning based on personal experience.

It’s an ever evolving thing!

Nothing is set in stone so drop the arrogance accept that people will have different opinions to you , it’s called the spice of life.

And above all stop the bullying as you’ll find pretty quick there are some folk out there who will call you on it publicly.

And with time and hindsight you may even realise what you were doing in the first place.

Like I said spiritually awareness isn’t a competition – it’s a personal path.